K'vitsh

Reading the Alternet piece What Happened When I Joined Match.com at 58 left me feeling pissy before I’d even finished. Not long into the story, the woman author writes at length about how she couldn’t give a fuck (pardon me) about sex:

“In four-fifths of them, the men want to have sex way more often than the women do. I would say almost none of the women would care if they ever got laid again, even when they are in good marriages. They do it because the man wants to. They do it because it makes the men like them more, and feel close for a while, but mostly women love it because they get to check it off their to-do lists. It means they get a pass for a week or two, or a month.”

Then, not two paragraphs later:

“And the women are not crazy about the men’s secret Internet porn lives.”

This is a stereotype about women that I wish weren’t as true as it seems to often be. Women don’t like fucking. But god forbid the men in their lives who do like fucking watch porn, wank, or look at other women. 

How exactly do women expect this to play out? They want a sexless teddy bear to watch t.v. with and if a healthy man wants more, he’s a pig.

That’s it, really. I don’t get why some people are so against sex. I mean, I can guess at myriad reasons. But to not want it, but expect your mate to be happy with that is weird.