K'vitsh

My issue is completely with the whole concept of introducing “purity” into the abstinence debate. I am no longer a virgin, but I have recently chosen to become abstinent for religious reasons (I am in the process of converting). I don’t regret the sexual experiences I have had, but I also don’t regret giving up The Sex. For me, this was a decision and a commitment I made to myself and to God (note: not to my future “knight on a white horse” of a husband or on my “fortress of virture defending” father. Ah! Those purity balls freak me out.) When young girls are encouraged to see themselves as defined by their purity, its the same thing as encouraging them to see themselves as defined by their bodies. I agree with so much of the message that this book sends out, but by treating sexual “purity” as a character definition and litmus test for self worth, we teach girls that responsibility, truthfulness, love and kindness, and the way they treat others are not the most important part of their selves—its the clothes the wear and the sexual behavior they engage in.